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Public Speaking is like dating…….hmmmmm

18 Jul

  • Nerves – It’s natural to be nervous before a big first date (or a second or third). We are excited to see the other person and excited by the possibilities of it all. We are also nervous that our date will hate us. We get butterflies in our tummies before a big speech for many of the same reasons. The nerves are natural but focusing on the other person (or audience) can tame them.
  • Look sharp – Nothing like your date showing up in a tattered Led Zeppelin t-shirt and cut-offs. Nothing says I don’t want to be dating you like bad hygiene and poor grooming! Likewise, nothing tells an audience you don’t care quite like when you don’t dress up for a speech. I’m not suggesting  wearing a 3 piece suit when you speak, but dress for the audience and occasion. It’s a way to make a great first impression.
  • Tease – Flirting is how we show another person we are interested. We lean forward, smile, and make jokes. It grabs our date’s attention. When we speak, it’s important to tease the audience. Capture their attention in the first 30 seconds of your presentation with a story that leaves them begging for more.
  • Take an interest – Dating 101 – don’t talk about yourself the whole time! Ask questions about the other person to show you are interested in them. When speaking, remember a speech is not about the speaker! It’s about the audience. Show the audience your are interested in them just like you would show a date.
  • Take action – The date goes great, but waiting by the phone for it to ring sucks! Relationship experts suggest that if you have a good date, then take action and ask for the next date. In speaking, we want to leave the audience with something they can do, know or feel. Leave your date and your audience with a plan for action!

Going to dinner on first date is a MAJOR MISTAKE

11 Jun

So  you meet someone on Match.com and you decide on a first date.     You are nervous with anticipation thinking will we click?  Will there be any chemistry.

So you decide to go out to dinner – MAJOR MISTAKE

Why?  

Think about it – 60-70 percent of communication is non-verbal.

So what?

Well, if you are sitting behind a table at a restaurant you are missing a huge percentage of body language that may allow you to figure out – is this the right one?  

Suggestion -Find an activity that requires body language such as bowling or miniature  golf.  This will allow you to read the body language as well as the verbal cues. This will make your dating experiences much richer and deeper.

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