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Going to dinner on first date is a MAJOR MISTAKE

11 Jun

So  you meet someone on Match.com and you decide on a first date.     You are nervous with anticipation thinking will we click?  Will there be any chemistry.

So you decide to go out to dinner – MAJOR MISTAKE

Why?  

Think about it – 60-70 percent of communication is non-verbal.

So what?

Well, if you are sitting behind a table at a restaurant you are missing a huge percentage of body language that may allow you to figure out – is this the right one?  

Suggestion -Find an activity that requires body language such as bowling or miniature  golf.  This will allow you to read the body language as well as the verbal cues. This will make your dating experiences much richer and deeper.

“Don’t stop Believing” sung by the movies – TALLspeaking – Public Speaking made easy

14 Aug

When do you stop believing?  Is it when you walk up to the podium or when you first enter a networking event.  What causes you that sinking feeling in your chest?  What causes sweats or shaky hands?  There is a way to start believing again and it all starts with realizing that your message is needed and is part of the dynamic of the world.  What you have to say is vital for others to hear.  Start believing again!

10 tips to engage your audience – TALLspeaking – Public Speaking Training

1 Jun

  1. Engage the audience’s emotions. The best way to engage an audience is to tap into their emotions. Don’t just present dry facts. Involve them emotionally. One way to do this is tell a story in an interactive fashion. Help people see themselves as the hero of the story. Turn the ‘I’ in your story into the ‘we’. Use metaphors and analogies to help explain new concepts. Analogies are best taken from common experiences that everyone shares.
  2. Get physical. People can only sit in place for so long. If your presentation lasts more than 45 minutes plan ways to move people around. Do a pop quiz where you ask everyone in the room to stand and then sit down as they respond to questions.
  3. Make the speech compelling. Exhibit empathy with the pain the audience is feeling. Align your personal interests with those of the audience. Make every sentence count – eliminate fluff. Deliver your speech with passion and focus. Use evocative words that engage each of the five senses.
  4. Be aware of different learning styles. Adults acquire knowledge in different ways. Every audience will include a wide range of ‘learning styles’. Visual learners will want tosee your presentation and take a look at what you willreveal. They appreciate PowerPoint, graphics and handouts. Auditory learners hear what you tell them and decide if it resonates. They respond to stories and vocal variety. Kinesthetic learners grasp the foundation of your argument. Involve them in discussion and Q&A. Auditory Digital learners love to get a sense of your material andprocess the talk. Give them plenty of data, graphs and statistics. They need time to digest the information and a way to contact you after the program is over.
  5. Move beyond PowerPoint. Remember that your presentation is more than the set of slides. The slides should complement your outline, not visa-versa. Consider switching off the computer and using the whiteboard or flipcharts.
  6. Make eye contact. Before you begin speaking, take a moment to breathe. Then look at one person and connect with your eyes. Begin your speech talking directly to that person. After you finish a thought, pause and move on to the next person and repeat the process. This helps calm your nerves and connects with your audience one person at a time.
  7. Avoid reading a verbatim script. Reading a script sounds stilted and distances you from people. Free yourself from having to use extensive written notes. Take your script outline and create abbreviated notes. Carry 3×5 cards onstage with large-font key words to jog your memory.
  8. Listen to the audience. Communication is a two-way street. Your audience speaks to you all the time, whether with questions spoken aloud or their facial expressions and body language. It’s critical that you listen to them. Ask questions during your talk to confirm that what you are saying connects with what they are hearing. Use body language to react physically to the audience. Don’t just speak from the neck up.
  9. Challenge the audience. Audiences love controversy. Always be controversial around issues — never around personalities. Challenge conventional wisdom. Point out a glaring inconsistency in received wisdom. Offer a clean, easily-understood solution to a complex problem.
  10. Use humor. But never tell jokes. Self-depreciating humor works best. The audience who smiles with you is more sympathetic to your argument. Make sure that you connect humor to the point you are making. Keep it short and sweet, not long and drawn-out. Avoid saying, “This is a funny” before you speak. Avoid offensive and off-color humor.
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