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“May I ask who is calling”? “Can I have dressing on the side”?

26 Sep

“May I ask who is calling”  – I hear this all the time on the other end of the phone line or while waiting in reception areas?   This is weak, meek and confusing language for the listener because who ever says no.  So it’s couched as a question but truly it is a demand.  Plus, why would you ask “may” of course you can say “who is calling” and there is truly no need to ask permission.

Its similar to when you hear people order  at a restaurant and they say “can I have a salad with dressing on the side”?  It’s not rocket science or a mathematical equation to just pour dressing into a small cup.   In addition of course you can have your food any way you want included burnt to a crisp – you are the one paying for the service.  We need to eliminate this weak/meek language from our everyday conversations so we sound strong and confident.

“This guy loves Jesus and I love this guy” New Feature – Sunday Night You Tube Speech Star

8 Sep

 

Listen for it “take a chill pill”  –  this Pastor is my pick for the Sunday Night You Tube Speech Star!  He has the guts to tell his congregation that I am going to lose some of you (members) and tells his audience that maybe you have some issues.  Telling them we love to judge other peoples faults because it keeps it off us.  He has moved past judgement – it does not affect his voice or tone because he is in the “zone” of authenticity.  Listen to his rhythm  and how it’s weaved with humor, in a way that isn’t offensive but catches the audience off guard.  He is using his words to expose hypocrisy in teachings – that is why he is using dramatic body language – because it reduces the tension in the room by using his body as the grounding agent.  He uses his eyes as lasers to direct his message to key members  and his pauses let the message peculate in a highly effective way!

Public Speaking lessons for your child?

18 Jun

 

 

 

Having to speak in front of an audience scares most people, but if your child learns this crucial skill in their childhood you will help them to avoid being ever anxious about speaking in public. Children approach things often in a fearless way. Thus, the sooner you start teaching your child public speaking skills the better. Speaking in front of people – taught at an early age – might help them to become great communicators and leaders one day. A skill and asset that they will keep for the rest of their life.

Some tips to help your child become a better speaker!

 Show them (good and poor) videos of presentations online.

Look on You tube and other video sharing websites for speeches and presentations. Find some good and some poor examples. Watching poor presentations might teach your child more than watching a good speech. Sit together with your child and discuss: Was it a good or a poor presentation? Why was it good? Why was it poor? What could they (or you) personally apply to my own presentation in the future?

 Provide any opportunity to hold speeches in your private circle.

Whenever there is an important event, such as a wedding celebration, an anniversary party, a friend or relative’s birthday, etc. allow your child to speak. The more exposure your child gets to bigger groups the better. Your child will gain a powerful advantage and as adult they will lose their fear of public speaking.

Going to dinner on first date is a MAJOR MISTAKE

11 Jun

So  you meet someone on Match.com and you decide on a first date.     You are nervous with anticipation thinking will we click?  Will there be any chemistry.

So you decide to go out to dinner – MAJOR MISTAKE

Why?  

Think about it – 60-70 percent of communication is non-verbal.

So what?

Well, if you are sitting behind a table at a restaurant you are missing a huge percentage of body language that may allow you to figure out – is this the right one?  

Suggestion -Find an activity that requires body language such as bowling or miniature  golf.  This will allow you to read the body language as well as the verbal cues. This will make your dating experiences much richer and deeper.

It’s Official: College Sex Weeks Are A Thing Now Read more:

3 Apr

Several Universities across the United States are having Sex Week.  Classes such as “Reclaiming Pleasure,” and many others are being offered!  While sex is important to us all – it’s never good with out communication.  Strong communication is key in every area of our life from our partners, children, friends, and your work environment.  So I think that in conjunction with College Sex week their should be College Communication week where we discuss eye contact, making anxiety work for you, body language – what are you communicating and learning how to inspire an audience with your word choice.  Are you ready to help me lobby for College Communication week? 

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